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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Jane's Official Diagnosis

Bittersweet. 

That's how it feels when you finally get the cause of death for your daughter. It has been 8 months since she passed but we just received her cause of death yesterday. 

The result? Systematic Inflammatory Response of an unknown origin.

I will let Bryan explain that to you in doctor terms: 
systemic inflammatory response of unknown origin: an inflammatory response of the whole body usually related to infection but not always so. The criteria for SIRS is two of the following four: tachycardia (fast heart rate>90), tachypnea (fast breathing>20), fever, or high white blood cell count.

So basically, they have no idea why Jane died. It could have been an infection, but not necessarily. It has been a very weird evening for me since we found out. Like I'm stuck in limbo. Not having real closure. I feel like I should be upset, but I can't be because I don't know what to be upset at. I'm upset at nothing. Nothing being the lack of diagnosis. 

I am not okay tonight. I just want to curl into a ball and not come out for a week. I can't believe this is really real. It can't be. I am not this person who can survive tragedy. 

I do take comfort in my initial reaction to hearing the news. That this "nothing" that Jane apparently had was God's way of getting her home. If it was meningitis or cancer or "nothing" the end result would have been her mortal death and return to her Savior. At least the way He took her was so quick and painless; it was very merciful. 

7 comments:

  1. Wow. Just wow. I totally understand what you're saying about not knowing how to feel. It's so hard not to have a concrete answer. And I totally understand what you're saying about it not 'really' mattering because one way or the other God just needed her on the other side. I'm sorry you have this pain to bear.

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  2. Oh sweetheart! Sorry for the crummy news. Sending you a hug from mikes away,

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  3. I love you guys. This is tough. I love seeing her beautiful face on the side bar.

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  4. Oh, this is bad news to my ears! I'm so sorry.

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  5. Hope. Hope for a better tomorrow. Let that word fill you up. And go on hoping that one day it will truly all be better and our living Savior will mend this ache and release this pain and you will all be together again because of that bright, perfect hope that He is there. And so is she.

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  6. I'm not one to post, but from the shupe's to the Clark's we love you guys so much. We love and admire your faith. We are always cheering and praying for you.

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